By Ken Johansson
Most of us probably have a plan or a goal regarding what we want our social lives to be like and in most cases this is a plan made with very broad strokes. Being more specific and knowing exactly what you want, and why you want it, can be quite difficult though.
When it comes to our social lives there is a lot of cultural and societal baggage that we have to carry with us and this can influence what we think we want as well as what we think we need in order to be successful in those situations.
An example of this is the ability, or skill, to make small talk with someone. While this can be something that can be quite good to have at certain times during our lives it is not necessarily an essential skill, although depending on what line of work you are in it can be, but most of the time your culture and society will tell you differently.
The same also goes for going to parties or other bigger social events. It might be a good way to get new acquaintances as well as socializing for some but for others it can be a draining experience that can be more of a detriment than actually being a helpful experience.
This cultural baggage can therefore lead to some skewed views on what it is that you actually want to achieve in your social life and it can also make it much more difficult when it comes to assessing how much progress you have made in that area.
So is there a process that can help you sort out the cultural baggage and focus completely on what you as an individual want? The answer might not be as straight-forward as you would like. The answer is both yes and no.
So what do I mean? Well, knowing that there are outside factors that influence your goals can help you with minimizing them but it is nigh on impossible to actually remove them completely, unless you want to completely isolate
yourself from society and that would defeat the purpose.
What you can do is to always be mindful of what it is that you want and then assess how you are feeling about your progress every step of the way. If at any point you feel that what you are doing or what your current goals are seems wrong to you you should stop immediately, take a step back and see what went wrong.
By doing this you will, at the very least, mitigate some of the risk of doing things or pursuing goals that might not be in your best interest and that will in turn give you a chance of focusing your energy and time on something that is more important to you.
Keep I mind that realizing that a particular goal or method is not suited to you can take some time and that you should not doubt your actions at every turn. Just be mindful of what makes you feel good and pursue that endeavor.
Ken Johansson is the owner and writer of How To Make Friends 101, a site dedicated to helping anyone with achieving their goals regarding friendship and their social lives!
Want to know more about how to make friends? Visit my site for more tips and tricks on how to improve and expand your social experience!
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