By Vic Torgrimsen
Fixing a broken marriage is hard, but it can be done. The biggest thing is both couples need to be committed to fixing the marriage. Both people must be willing to do whatever it takes to stay together. By having this mentality, the couple is ready to go on and start fixing their marriage.
Find out what the root problem is. Was someone unfaithful? Is there a communication problem? Are you the problem? To find the root problem, each person has to be completely honest with each other and themselves. Once the problem is identified, the couple needs to work together to fix it. Most of the time, it is best to seek a counselor who can help mediate the conversations. A counselor can also present a unique perspective on the problem that the couple might not be aware of.
Fixing a marriage has to be worked on every single day. Each person in the relationship needs to commit to do at least one thing for the marriage every day. Whether it is planning a surprise for the other, saying nice things, or showing appreciation some other way, try to do something.
Listen a little more and pay attention. The person may not say exactly what they mean because they don't know how to voice it. By paying attention to moods and behavior, a lot can be learned from the partner. Then, ask the person about it. Maybe they didn't realize what they were doing or how it was affecting the people around them. By bringing this to their attention, it can be openly talked about and hopefully put anything that is bothering them to rest.
Remember why you got married. By revisiting the early years, before marriage, the couple can hopefully reconnect. Another way to do this is make a list of everything the couple loves about each other. Read it to the other person. By doing this, each person will feel more appreciated and maybe rekindle those feelings that once made them fall in love.
Turn off the electronics. Take time to spend with each other, and only each other. Maybe go on a spontaneous vacation or just lay in bed together and talk. The important thing is giving all the attention to the other person at the moment. Show them they are special and worth precious time.
Be kind. This holds true for just about everything in the marriage. Whether it is chores, talking, or anything in between. Being kind will go a long way. Remember the golden rule, treat the other person as you would want to be treated. Do not be condescending or sarcastic, it will not go very far in a marriage. Instead, think about what you would want and try to give that to your partner. It will be much appreciated. Also, try to notice is your partner is doing this as well. Be thankful and acknowledge their kindness.
Fixing a broken marriage will take a lot of time and effort. Remember to find out what the root problem is, work at the marriage every single day, listen and pay attention, turn off electronics, and be kind to one another. Counseling can help make these even more helpful by giving great tips and techniques.
Is you marriage in jeopardy of falling apart? Fortunately, there is hope. With some careful guidance and direction, your marriage might be saved. Feel free to contact us for a free consultation.
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