When Friends Can't Be Found

When Friends Can't Be Found

12/24/2013 11:30:00 pm
By Laura Schroeder
Expert Author Laura Schroeder
We read and talk about making and nurturing friendships but avoid the subject of what to do when friends can't be found. Even in such a lonely time, hope is not lost. Try looking at it from the vantage point of solitude.
Until the last two years, I didn't like to be alone. I wanted people to like me. I was frustrated when I put so much energy out that wasn't returned.
I've had a shift. I've actually come to enjoy solitude. Think about artists, writers and musicians who intentionally get away by themselves so they can focus on their craft. When they return, it is usually with a fresh piece of work.
Getting away gives you a renewed spirit. It's like removing toxins through juicing. You know what negative influences you no longer need. You begin to substitute them with only those traits that will enrich your life.
While I've been taking a break from work, I've enjoyed time with my husband who has gotten to work from home and my dog. We celebrated with my daughter at her wedding and got to see our boys. I get the apartment pool to myself everyday. I've learned to make jewelry.
This has been a cleansing time. I've done some writing, reflecting on the past. This year, I will be fifty years old. I don't feel old. I feel secure in knowing I've done my very best. I'm not desperate for approval. I now take interaction with others for the best of the moment at hand.
When I do return to the working world, I will be glad I had this time to myself. Even at church, I will remember that I'm there to worship God, not overextend myself in time commitments. I can still serve him in interactions with others in my everyday life and by supporting various ministries.
The time will come soon enough when kids will marry, have babies and the empty nest will fill again. Life cycles will continue as aging parents need to be cared for and then pass on. As we age ourselves, the time will come when we find ourselves alone after the death of a spouse or illness sets in.
As these times come and go, take comfort in knowing that God has not forsaken you. He has given us the beauty in nature, a still, small voice in quiet times, the loyalty of a pet and tranquility in the night. Sweet dreams.
Author, Laura Schroeder enjoys sharing her life experiences and encouraging others. If her articles have been helpful, you may contact her at laura@lauramschroeder.com. Please make any comments family friendly.

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