By Susan Leigh
There are occasions when we've all been the new kid on the block. It may have been the first day at a new school, job, a different neighbourhood, or we may have been newly single, coping with a brand new way of life. Sometimes others may have been in the same situation, struggling with their first day too. Other times it may have been a more solitary experience which we've had to deal with on our own.
Whatever the situation let's look at some tips for making friends:
- Support your confidence in making friends by being a good conversationalist and keeping up to date with the news, things that are happening in your area, even popular TV if that's of interest to the people you're mixing with. Being able to contribute helps you to feel more relaxed and able to be yourself, rather than standing self-consciously on the sidelines.
- Ask questions of the people you meet and be genuinely interested in their reply. Remember what you've been told so that you build up a connection with these people for the future. It makes them feel interesting, valued and helps you to make friends.
- Be friendly but don't try too hard. Accept that there are times when others may not want to be your friend right now; they may have a lot on their mind, be stressed, busy, dealing with their own stuff. Their reasons will have nothing to do with you. Relax, don't take it personally and move on.
- If it's your first day in a new work environment try to quickly learn the basics, people's names, where everything is. Keep a notebook and make comprehensive notes as you're told your various duties. These notes will mean that you don't have to keep asking questions and instead are able to relax and confidently participate, building friendly relationships with your co-workers.
- Go regularly to places that interest you, like the gym, a social club, night school classes. By attending on a regular basis you are likely to see the same faces, people who have the advantage of being interested in some of the things that interest you and whom you meet in a relaxed, informal environment.
- Accept invitations and suggest events that you think may be of interest to your circle. Whether it be at work, with other parents at your children's school, people at your gym, neighbours there may well be opportunities that provide a reason to mix and meet socially, and so make friends.
- Suggest a coffee at yours if you are looking to be sociable and friendly. It is an inexpensive way to share a little time with neighbours, local parents, people from your groups and gives you the chance to establish some friendly foundation stones in your relationships.
- If you feel that you have low self-esteem, issues that you need to deal with that are holding you back from making friends, consider undergoing counselling or hypnotherapy. This is an effective way of recovering from past experiences and can help improve your confidence and self-belief.
There is a saying that if you go halfway to meet someone they will usually be willing to meet you halfway too. Most people are prepared to be friendly and even if they don't become your new very best friend using some of these tips will enable you to establish a reasonable social life with people with whom you are friendly and comfortable.
Susan Leigh is a Counsellor and Hypnotherapist who works with stressed individuals to promote confidence and self belief, with couples experiencing relationship difficulties to improve communications and understanding and with business clients to support the health and motivation levels of individuals and teams.
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