By Ahmed Oumimoune
What is friendship?
This is may be a hard question, harder even than a Mathematics problem. However, in the few modest coming lines, I will try to answer this rhetorical question the way I see friendship myself.
This is may be a hard question, harder even than a Mathematics problem. However, in the few modest coming lines, I will try to answer this rhetorical question the way I see friendship myself.
Much ink has been spilled on the real meaning of friendship, yet all the definitions have end up that there are no standard characteristics of real friendship. Even when you look up the word in a dictionary, you find out that it simply means the condition of being friends. So, I see that it is of much importance to give it a try and go beyond this sterile definition and consider some defining features of the word FRIENDSHIP.
Like the English proverb says ' A friend in need is a friend indeed', friendship can be defined as two or more people who like each other and accept each other's defaults. It is a human tie that relates them and makes them help each other. So, a real friend is that who is always there to give you a hand whenever you have problems. However, nowadays people are becoming more materialistic and only care about taking advantage of everybody even their best friends. This fact makes it harder for anyone to trust his/her friends. Here I have to draw a comparison between what used to happen between friends in the past and what is actually happening between them now. Friends used to get along really well in a sense that they did not see the slightest difference between themselves and their real friends; i.e. they used to laugh together and cry together, and when one of them was away the other felt like being a body without a soul. On the opposite things have totally changed these days, it is very common to expect a request from a friend whenever he/she calls you. They would never ask about you or see if you are happy or sad. You only become their best friend when they need something from you. Even when tell
a friend a secret, they barely keep it and reveal it as quick as possible.
So, the question that poses itself is: Do real friends still exist?
Well, to answer this tough question let us not be very pessimistic and let's say that real friends still exist. Yet, one still needs to put his/her friends under tests to see if they are true friends or not. To do so, you can simply follow these steps:
1. Always pay attention to your friend's body language and facial expressions when talking to him/her. They can show if they are pleased to be with you or not.
2. Count how many times he/she calls you and notice his/her reaction when you do not show up for a couple of days.
3. Tell your friend that you need him/her to help you sort out a serious problem and see how willing he/she would be.
4. Test your friend by telling him/her a fake secret and see how good he/she is at keeping secrets.
5. Invent a small misunderstanding between you two and see how he/she would react.
Anyways, these are only some suggested ways to test your friendship. There are of course hundreds of them; you just need to use your imagination and social intelligence.
All in all, I would say that we can never live without friends because with time they might become like somebody from your family or sometimes more. Nevertheless, you have to be very SELECTIVE when choosing your friends.
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