By Leo R Rivers
Have you ever wanted to have more friends? Are you in high school, supposed to have the best time of your life, but waste it uselessly lamenting for yourself?
I was there, I was bored, I was depressed, I was unhappy, I was alone. What is the use of so many things that you try to do when apparently a repellent has been attached to your personality?
A repellent... has been attached to your personality? Really?
Maybe you attached it, maybe you are the glue that holds that people repellent and yourself. Have you ever thought that the different aspects of your personality may be independent but interconnected entities forming a whole?
Perhaps the truth is that your negative side, the one holding all the predispositions and all the self-loathing, is interfering with the existence and thriving of your positive, attractive side.
We are all attractive if we know how to exploit our assets and control our defects.
How to do that? Well...
How to do that? Well...
There are many manuals out there, many personal development documents that you may want to check. Most of them, in my opinion, are complete crap; they will flatter the hell out of you, tell you that you are "great" and "wonderful" and important" and fantastic. Of course you can keep calling to yourself all those wonderful things if that works for you.
But for some of us, the plain superficial flattering doesn't really work (at all).
So "I have no friends in high school" or "I have no friends in college" are still lingering there, huh?
Give this a try:
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Free yourself from the idea that you are the problem. The problem lies within you, but the solution also lingers there. You are the solution.
-Stop caring about what everyone else thinks or says. Let me tell you something: They will absolutely always talk crap about you. It's what we do! It doesn't mean that they hate or dislike you; they just want to "escalate positions" and show their competence to judge others in front of their peers and themselves. It's some kind of self-assuring ritual that you shouldn't care about. Most likely they will only mention you (if they even do) and move on to the next topic not giving a damn. You can still be friends with these people, believe me.
- If you are in college, there are many ways to meet new people, the best one I've tried is to start with regular small talk and escalate to sharing opinions about classes or careers and then sharing personal information. That you will be able to find later on.
Just cheer up for now.
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